If you are still in the relationship:
- Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with
no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
- Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
- Keep change with you at all times.
- Memorize all important numbers.
- Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family,
friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
- Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent.
- Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.
If you have left the relationship:
- Change your phone number.
- Screen calls.
- Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents
involving the batterer.
- Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
- If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
- Vary your routine.
- Notify school and work contacts.
- Call a shelter for battered women.
If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should
take important papers and documents with you to enable you to apply
for benefits or take legal action.
Important papers you should take include social security cards and
birth certificates for you and your children, your marriage license,
leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names,
your checkbook, your charge cards, bank statements and charge account
statements, insurance policies, proof of income for you and your
spouse (pay stubs or W-2's), and any documentation of past incidents
of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)
National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Operated by the Texas Council on Family Violence.
National Sexual Assault Hotlines
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
877-739-3895 (Toll free)
24 hour access to information, resources, and research regarding
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
635-B Pennsylvania Avenue SE
Washington, DC 2003
This number will connect you to your local rape crisis center.